Meikles & Dimes is a podcast dedicated to the simple, practical, and underappreciated. Monologue episodes cover science-based topics in decision-making, health, communication, negotiation, and performance psychology. Interview episodes, called Layer 2 episodes, include guests from business, academia, health care, journalism, engineering, and athletics.
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Taya Cohen is a Professor Organizational Behavior and Business Ethics at Carnegie Mellon University. Her research focuses on honesty, moral character, negotiation, and conflict management. Taya is frequently featured in prominent media outlets, including The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, The Financial Times, BBC, NPR, and TIME magazine.
In 2020, Taya was recognized as one of the Best 40 Under 40 MBA Professors by Poets & Quants, and she is a Past-President of the International Association for Conflict Management.
Taya earned a B.A. in Psychology from Pennsylvania State University, and an M.A. and Ph.D. in Social Psychology from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. Prior to joining the faculty at Carnegie Mellon, Taya spent two years as a postdoc at Northwestern’s Kellogg School of Management.
In this episode, we discuss the following:
- When we do something wrong, we can feel guilt for the bad behavior, or we can feel shame for being a bad person. If we feel guilt, we can apologize and try to be better in the future, which can give us hope. But feeling shame, feeling like we’re fundamentally flawed, can make us feel less optimistic about the future and can be much harder to deal with.
- When we provide feedback to others, it’s generally more effective to focus on people’s behaviors as opposed to more generalized statements about who they are as a person.
- Guilt tends to be a much more healthy, positive emotion than shame.
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Monday May 06, 2024
Monday May 06, 2024
Bryan Porter is a Portfolio Manager at the hedge fund MIG Capital, and he’s been a hedge fund analyst since 2013. Earlier in his career, Bryan spent three years at The Carlyle Group in the $14B US Buyout fund, and was an Investment Banking analyst at Goldman Sachs.
Bryan earned his B.S. in Accounting from the University of Southern California and his M.B.A. from Stanford Business School.
But before all of that, Bryan was working at McDonald’s and sleeping on couches, in closets, and in cars.
Bryan’s incredible story borders on unbelievable.
In his words, if you ran the experiment of his life 1,000 times, you’re going to get 999 gutter balls.
But in this in-depth interview, Bryan shares his playbook for how achieved a most improbable comeback.
In this episode we discuss the following:
- In high school Bryan was sleeping on friends’ couches. He took a job at McDonald’s. He graduated high school near the bottom decile. He slept in closets and in cars.
- When a close friend committed suicide and Bryan got kicked out of his house, he made a change.
- “If you realize you’re heading in the wrong direction, even if you’re 95% of the way there, you turn around.”
- Bryan took control of his health. He served a church mission. He earned a 4.0. And eventually he made his way to Goldman, Carlyle, Stanford, and the hedge fund world.
- And along the way, Bryan learned crucial lessons:
- Study to learn, not to pass tests.
- Make game day easier than practice.
- Persistence is one of life’s biggest differentiators. People are not patient and want results now.
- An orchid requires just the right amount of water and sunlight. But a weed can grow in bad dirt, with little water and sunlight, and can punch through concrete. Do you want to be an orchid or a weed?
- You can’t outrun your diet. A Big Mac meal is 1300 calories. And an hour at the gym burns just 300 calories.
- Find your limiter and train it until it’s no longer a constraint. Then find your next limiter and repeat.
- And maybe the most important takeaway of all was Bryan’s playbook:
- Set some ridiculous goal that's far out in the future. And then embody that reality with perfect clarity and become it. Smell it, taste it, live it, and your brain won’t know the difference. And then just persist. People overestimate what they can do in a six-month time frame, but underestimate what they can do in a six-year time frame, if they persist.
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Monday Apr 29, 2024
137: Cory Sanford | What Helps Us Today Can Hurt Us Tomorrow
Monday Apr 29, 2024
Monday Apr 29, 2024
Cory Sanford is the Vice President of Culture and Talent at Guidant Financial, where he led the transition of the entire organization to remote work. He has also helped two different companies win #1 best place to work honors.
Cory is both a graduate of and an instructor in Cornell University’s Executive Master’s in Human Resource Management program. His book HR You Kidding Me? Surprisingly Simple Steps to Unlock the Power of People is a #1 best seller on Amazon.
In this episode we discuss the following:
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It’s impossible to dive deep while wearing a life jacket. The things that helped us in the past can be the same things that hold us back today.
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Cory has found power in the words, “I don’t know”, “I’m not sure, let’s look together” or “What do you think?” By being okay with not having all the answers, Cory has accelerated his own learning.
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Website: https://www.guidantfinancial.com/about-us/leadership-team/
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Sunday Apr 28, 2024
136: Sundays with Tozer Episode 13 | Tozer and His “First Friend” Jake Garn
Sunday Apr 28, 2024
Sunday Apr 28, 2024
In this episode Tozer and I talk with Jake Garn, an international law attorney at Garn & Graber, who is Nate Garn's younger brother. We discuss how Jake became Tozer’s first friend and co-tenant, and how Jake set the stage for all of the youth who came after him.
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Sunday Apr 28, 2024
135: Sundays with Tozer Episode 12 | Tozer & Nate Garn (Part 2)
Sunday Apr 28, 2024
Sunday Apr 28, 2024
In this episode we continue our discussion with Nate Garn. We discuss how Tozer helped Nate’s friend from Guatemala (Luis) come to the United States and how Tozer picked out Nate’s future wife.
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Sunday Apr 28, 2024
134: Sundays with Tozer Episode 11 | Tozer & Nate Garn (Part 1)
Sunday Apr 28, 2024
Sunday Apr 28, 2024
In this episode we bring in Nate Garn, the current president of Sizzling Platter, which owns and operates more than 650 restaurants, and we learn how Tozer supported Nate in both high school and college.
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Monday Apr 22, 2024
133: Ann Tenbrunsel | No One Is Immune from Behaving Unethically
Monday Apr 22, 2024
Monday Apr 22, 2024
Ann Tenbrunsel is a business ethics professor at the University of Notre Dame. Her research examines why employees, leaders and students behave unethically, despite their best intentions to behave ethically. Ann is the author, co-author, or co-editor of six books on this topic—including Blind Spots (with Max Bazerman), Behavioral Ethics (with David De Cremer), Codes of Conduct and (with David Messick)—and she has also published 50 research articles and chapters.
Her research has been covered in the New York Times, NBC, ABC, Sports Illustrated, ESPN, US News and World Report, the Associated Press, The Guardian, Harvard Business Review, Forbes, Huffington Post, Washington Post, NPR, and in blogs for Psychology Today and Freakonomics.
Ann was also my advisor when I was a postdoc at Notre Dame, and she is, in a word, awesome.
In this episode we discuss the following:
- No one is immune from behaving unethically. And sadly, over and again we tend to overrate our own ethics.
- When facing an ethical dilemma, we predict we’ll behave ethically, and after making our decision we recollect that we’ve behaved ethically. But at the time of decision, we all too often feel unexpected pressure, make some excuse, adopt some rationalization, and behave unethically.
- We’re in a constant battle with our want self and our should self. And all too often we give into our wants, rather than standing by our shoulds.
- To improve our ethics, we need good sleep, continued education, and practice. Just as we wouldn’t expect to perform well in a meeting without preparing, we shouldn’t expect to perform well in an ethical dilemma if we haven’t prepared.
- Study ethics. Take a class, read Ann’s book, learn about the ways that power, pressure, and circumstances can lead us to unethical behavior. And then check your ethics with other people, conduct a pre-mortem, and let your “should-self” win.
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Monday Apr 15, 2024
Monday Apr 15, 2024
Gretchen Rubin is one of today’s most influential and thought-provoking observers of happiness and human nature. She’s the author of many bestselling books, such as The Happiness Project, Better Than Before, and The Four Tendencies, which have sold millions of copies in more than thirty languages. Her most recent book is Life in Five Senses.
She’s also host of the popular podcast, Happier with Gretchen Rubin, and founder of the award-winning Happier app, which helps people track their happiness-boosting habits.
Gretchen has been interviewed by Oprah, eaten dinner with Nobel Prize-winner Daniel Kahneman, walked arm-in-arm with the Dalai Lama, had her work reported on in a medical journal, been written up in the New Yorker, and been an answer on Jeopardy! After starting her career in law, she realized she wanted to be a writer while she was clerking for Supreme Court Justice Sandra Day O’Connor. Raised in Kansas City, she lives in New York City with her family.
In this episode we discuss the following:
- There is no magic. one-size-fits-all solution for happiness
- No one can tell you the best way or the right way to be happy, just as there is no one best way to cook an egg.
- One thing that was really hard for Gretchen to learn was what she enjoys versus what other people enjoy.
- Samuel Johnson: "Abstinence is as easy to me as temperance is difficult."
- Yogi Berra: "If you can’t imitate him, don’t copy him."
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Monday Apr 08, 2024
131: Modupe Akinola | Stop Passing Your Stress on to Everyone Else
Monday Apr 08, 2024
Monday Apr 08, 2024
Modupe Akinola is a business professor at Columbia Business School, and coach to Chris Hemsworth in the documentary Limitless. Prior to pursuing a career in academia, Modupe worked at Bain & Company and Merrill Lynch.
Modupe examines how organizational environments- characterized by deadlines, multi-tasking, and other attributes such as having low status- can engender stress, and how this stress can have spill-over effects on performance.
Her work has been covered in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, National Public Radio, WIRED, Scientific American, Forbes, The Economist, and The Huffington Post.
Modupe earned her undergraduate degree, MBA, and PhD from Harvard.
In this episode we discuss the following:
- We have so much control over how we experience life, and it's within our control to find ways to manage stress so that it doesn’t negatively affect others.
- If you’re feeling stressed, do a stress check on yourself to see how you can change and dial down that stress in a way that isn't contagious so that other people don't have a terrible day because you are having a bad one.
- If Modupe snaps at herself or someone else, she pauses and asks herself, “What’s going on?” That often helps her realize why she’s stressed so that she can deal with it.
- If you are stressed, pause, figure out why, and then ask yourself, “What do I need right now?”
- Modupe learned a simple phrase that has improved her relationship with her Mom when she’s stressed: “I’m busy right now, Mom, but I’ll call you this weekend.”
- Working as Chris Hemsworth’s stress coach reinforced for Modupe that everyone has stress, regardless of their fame or success.
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Monday Apr 01, 2024
130: Home Depot CEO Frank Blake on the Power of Recognition and Storytelling
Monday Apr 01, 2024
Monday Apr 01, 2024
Frank Blake is the former CEO and Chairman of Home Depot, where he led a massive company turn around during his tenure. Frank’s other leadership positions include serving as board member at Delta, general counsel at GE, general counsel for the EPA, deputy secretary for the U.S. Department of Energy, deputy counsel to Vice President George H. W. Bush, and law clerk for Supreme Court Justice John Paul Stevens.
Frank earned an undergraduate degree from Harvard and a law degree from Columbia.
In this episode we discuss the following:
- The single most underappreciated tool that leaders have is the recognition and gratitude they can express to people working for them, and doing it in a way that is memorable for the people who are recognized and celebrated.
- Frank recognized people by bringing them up on stage and telling stories about them that demonstrated great customer service.
- Frank recognized people by writing 200 handwritten personal notes every Sunday, thanking them for specific things they had done.
- Just as kids will root for athletes who take the time to sign autographs, Frank generated support from his team by writing them personal letters of recognition.
- Every business leader knows the phrase, “You get what you measure.” Frank’s corollary is, "You get what you recognize and celebrate."
- If I say to someone, “I want you to provide great customer service” that sort of vaporizes instantaneously. But if I share a story of great customer service, everyone understands it and can apply it.
- When you tell a story that illustrates great customer service, people start talking about the behaviors they're doing that are similar, and the behavior gets reinforced and you get real momentum in the organization.
- More often than not, leaders are unintentional and undisciplined about how they recognize and celebrate their employees.
- Frank learned the power of recognition when he worked for George H. W. Bush. As VP, George started every day by spending an hour typing out personal notes. As a staff member, when Frank got a note from the VP, he felt like he walked on air.
- You can surprise people by thanking them and doing it in a specific way.
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